Prince charming

“If you have chemistry, you only need one other thing…
TIMING, but timing’s a bitch.” –Robin Scherbatsky

Obviously a quote of “How I met your mother”, I love that show. And I have been remembering this quote since it first was on tv, I think that was over a year ago.

Exactly a week before my relationship really started crumbling, my sister got dumped by her boyfriend of one year. They still loved each other, but he needed a break… something they must have learned from the movies since in my opinion:
real love doesn’t need a break.

My mom has been having relationship troubles ever since…

My boyfriend, or ex suddenly disappeared a few weeks later.

And the day before yesterday I got a call from a friend in tears: the guy she had been dating for three months now claims that he didn’t realize they were dating and it was just a casual thing for him.

All these women have been left confused, alone and sad. Maybe it has something to do with the Eclipse Nadine Marie blogged about yesterday. But I have been listening to them and myself screaming, crying or just saying in absolute despair:
my prince charming must be either death or in jail or something. I don’t think there is anyone out there for me.

There is a lot to say about this topic… but not that much to say to those who feel this way, since they won’t listen. I have been trying to comfort my friend saying: first of all there is more than just one person out there for you, if there was just one person it could be a Chinese person in China and how will you ever be able to find him and have a discussion with him since you don’t speak the language. There is more than one person out there and even better: they aren’t all death or in jail.

You have to believe this and stop focussing so much about the lack of a good boyfriend. Try focussing on being happy instead. I’ll quote Miss Sparkz here: “don’t worry beautiful our prince charming is coming, he is on his way, maybe not express mail but he is coming in standard rate…”

And don’t you dare worrying about getting an ex boyfriend back. I know it’s tempting,
I know they seem perfect now. Trust me they aren’t, and if they don’t want to be with you in the first place, why would you want to. It’s better for yourself to remain single for a bit longer, just to find that perfect guy who will love you and only you and wouldn’t dare to think about leaving because this or that. I’m not saying that this perfect guy couldn’t be an ex, it’s just this: there is a reason you broke up and you cannot come back together before this reason has been resolved.

He IS out there and he actually has been on his way ever since he knew you were looking for him. But he is traveling on a white horse, might not have the best navigation system and will also find obstacles on his path that will make him just as ready for you as you are for him. So be patience, don’t make it about waiting, make it about living and you’ll have so much more to tell him when he arrives.

Have an open heart, use your mind and enjoy every single minute of being single.


Pumbaa: What’cha do, kid?
Simba: Something terrible. But I don’t wanna talk about
Timon: Good. We don’t wanna hear about it.
Pumbaa: {To Timon} Come on Timon. {To Simba} Anything we can do?
Simba: Not unless you can change the past.
Pumbaa: You know, kid, in times like this my buddy Timon here says “You got to put your behind in your past.”
Timon: {waving his arms} No. No. No.
Pumbaa: I mean…
Timon: Amateur. Lie down before you hurt yourself.  {to Simba} It’s “You got to put your past behind you.” Look, kid. Bad things happen, and you can’t do anything about it, right?
Simba: Right.
Timon: {Pokes Simba’s nose} Wrong!  When the world turns its back on you, you turn your back on the world!
Simba: Well, that’s not what I was taught.
Timon: Then maybe you need a new lesson. Repeat after me. {clears throat} Hakuna Matata.
Simba: {Still lethargic} What?
Pumbaa: Ha-ku-na Ma-ta-ta. It means no worries.

When did we all started to forget about Hakuna Matata? It seems to me we all need a little bit more Hakuna Matata in our lives. So we are left alone, so we are worrying that we’ll never find someone and maybe we wont… who cares seriously? We are all blessed with this one life, we don’t have control about everything that happens in this one life (who knows, something extremely terrible might be just around the corner… or the opposite could be there… we don’t know, we don’t have to know in advance), but we do have control about our reaction to it. We can choose to be happy.
Start being happy today and focus on what you have rather than what you don’t have… it’ll make a big difference.

Think about it, what’s the worst that could happen. If you enjoy every minute in life, not worrying about whether or not he will find you or he is death… and you end up staying alone forever… at least you had a fantastic life without worries. If you choose to bother about not having him right now it will not only make you less attractive, but if it would become reality… you will have lived a very sad life.

Try to live every day like it’s your last, enjoy every minute and never forget: it’s all about YOU!


When Life gives you Lemons, Ask for Salt and Tequila.


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