So a few weeks have passed… again :) it’s because of the moving day coming closer, I promise :) once I get more organized everything will be regular here :)
So I have been dating some more and I met someone with whom I can get along very well. The conversation was effortless and we both didn’t want to end the date to go home. One thing though… I’m not (yet) physically attracted to him… and that makes me wonder: how important should physical attraction be? Will it grow over time? Am I thinking about the wrong things when I choose men I wish were my boyfriend?
And after months (two) of absence… one of the men from the first few weeks on the dating site has resurfaced. He was supposed to make dinner for me in June or Juli (I forgot), but he cancelled the day before, saying something came up, but we would reschedule. Now… months later he said that he still owed me that dinner. This is a guy that I do find attractive, but knowing that I have been picking guy’s for the wrong reasons in the past… I didn’t reply to his message. I know it is rude, but I just don’t trust his motives to contact me after such a long time of absence.
I am trying to change my picking-habbits here :) so: any advice? Am I right to believe there is more potential in the first one, even thought I am not attracted to his appearance yet, but I AM a good match for his personality? And to just let the second one go, because he doesn’t seem sincere, like I don’t believe I can trust him later on if he shows this behaviour now already?
Would I be too kind if I did reply to the second one’s text? (that’s where the title comes from :) but I’ve learned not to be too kind anymore, since “they” only take advantage of that)
Am I just flipping trying to make the right choice? :D Tell me what you think…
- The confusion (charredpetals.wordpress.com)
- 27 Things I’ve Learned From A Year Of Being Single (thoughtcatalog.com)
- Are Romance and Physical Attraction Necessary to Marry Someone? (blackchristiannews.com)
- Still single at 32, I am the South’s version of the “Crazy Old Cat Lady” or Dating Site Rant #1 (thecrescentskeevy.wordpress.com)
- Dating tips to keep in mind this fall (datingdigestguide.wordpress.com)